The Psychology of Winning

                                                                      Denis Waitley 

Quality 1: Positive Self-Expectancy 

"Life is a self fulfilling prophecy. True winners go into every event expecting to win." 

       What this means is that if you want to accomplish something in life you have to tell yourself that you will succeed. For example lets say you're playing a game of football with your friends and you want to win. What you have have to do is to tell yourself that you will win. This will increase your chances in succeeding. If won't always work but yo shouldn't have any doubt in you. Doubt will drag you down. There is no magic involved with this its all physiological. When telling your self that you will succeed your having the mindset  of not failing and you will only be pushing yourself to win. If you try hard enough you will always succeed. 

Quality 2: Positive Self-Motivation 

"True winners dig deep and find motivation inside themselves to get through that tough task or to learn a new skill."

        Motivation is what pushes us to achieve our goals, feel more fulfilled and improve overall quality of life. Self-motivation is, in its simplest form, the force that drives you to do things. Different people are motivated by different things and at different times in their lives.  The same task may have more intrinsic motivators at certain times and more extrinsic motivators at others, most tasks have a combination of the two types of motivation.

Quality 3: Positive Self-Image

True winners are confident and view themselves as competent, valuable human beings.

         Self image is how you perceive yourself. It is important that your self-image be both positive and realistic. Having a self image that is unrealistic can be a drawback, whether that self image is negative or positive. Sometimes having an occasional negative thought or criticism about oneself can encourage change, hard work, and success. Sometimes having too positive an image of oneself can encourage complacency, underachievement, and arrogance. Finding the balance between feeling positive about oneself but having realistic goals is important. 

       

Quality 4: Positive Self-Direction

You gotta have direction if you are going to go anywhere. True winners know where they are going. Their sense of direction comes from the self and not from outside influences like parents or friends.

           Successful self-directed learners have a high propensity for asking why. The successful self-directed learner embraces responsibility for doing the work of learning and doing it well. The core is to the entire concept of “self-directed.”  The successful self-directed learner does not wait for someone else to say “you must learn this.” We must know that we can manage our body and our life, and that we are entitled to have a say in what happens to us.

Quality 5: Positive Self-Control

Total winners can sacrifice immediate pleasure for a gain in the future. Delayed gratification is of immense value in reaching your goals.

          Self-control is a aspect of inhibitory control, is the ability to regulate one's emotions, thoughts, and behavior in the face of temptations and impulses As an executive function, self-control is a cognitive process that is necessary for regulating one's behavior in order to achieve specific goals. It is the ability to subdue our impulses in order to achieve longer-term goals. Rather than responding to immediate impulses, we can plan, evaluate alternative actions, and, often enough, avoid doing things we'll later regret. Self control is what allows us to direct our attention, and it underlies all kinds of achievement.

Quality 6: Positive Self-Discipline

You have to discipline yourself or else someone else will discipline you into doing what they want you to do. Total winners have the power to discipline and take control of their lives.

          Self-discipline can be considered a type of selective training, creating new habits of thought, action, and speech toward improving yourself and reaching goals.  Self-discipline can also be task oriented and selective. View self-discipline as positive effort, not one of denial. Scheduling helps you focus on your priorities. By focusing on starting tasks rather than completing them, you can avoid procrastination.Time management can become an overwhelming task. When you do not have control over your own self, how can you control time? Begin with task-oriented self-discipline and build from there. As you control tasks, you build self-discipline. As you build self-discipline, you build time management. As you build time management, you build self-confidence.

Quality 7: Positive Self-Esteem

Your mood and outlook on life affect the way you see the world and how you interact in it. Total winners are positive, powerful people who make people feel good and provide a good vibe to those around him/her.

         

            Total winners are positive, powerful people who make people feel good and provide a good vibe to those around him/her. Improving your self-image takes time and practice. Developing good self-esteem involves encouraging a positive attitude toward yourself and the world around you and appreciating your worth, while at the same time behaving responsibly towards others. Self-esteem isn't self-absorption it's self-respect. By working from the inside out like focusing on changing your own way of thinking before changing the circumstances around you. You can build your self-esteem. The goal of this positive thinking is to give yourself a more positive self-concept, while seeing yourself honestly and accepting yourself and others, and removing all the negative things that keep you from doing your best.

Quality 8: Positive Self-Dimension

Total winners like in the present. They know that now is all there is. They don’t get caught up in the past or worry about the future. They simply handle the business that they can handle which is the stuff going on today, now.

              Self-esteem refers to a person's beliefs about their own worth and value. It also has to do with the feelings people experience that follow from their sense of worthiness or unworthiness. Self-esteem is important because it heavily influences people's choices and decisions. In other words, self-esteem serves a motivational function by making it more or less likely that people will take care of themselves and explore their full potential. People with high self-esteem are also people who are motivated to take care of themselves and to persistently strive towards the fulfillment of personal goals and aspirations. People with lower self-esteem don't tend to regard themselves as worthy of happy outcomes or capable of achieving them and so tend to let important things slide and to be less persistent and resilient in terms of overcoming adversity. They may have the same kinds of goals as people with higher self-esteem, but they are generally less motivated to pursu

           

          

Quality 9: Positive Self-Awareness
Total winners are aware of their power. They understand that they can be anything with enough effort and determination.

            Self Awareness is having a clear perception of your personality, including strengths, weaknesses, thoughts, beliefs, motivation, and emotions. Self Awareness allows you to understand other people, how they perceive you, your attitude and your responses to them in the moment. We might quickly assume that we are self aware, but it is helpful to have a relative scale for awareness. With practice we can learn to engage these types of heightened states and see new opportunities for interpretations in our thoughts, emotions, and conversations. Having awareness creates the opportunity to make changes in behavior and beliefs. 

Quality 10: Positive Action

Total winners take positive action in their business and with their friends and family. They are uplifting and motivating individuals who inspire the best from themselves and other.

              Positive Action is a systematic educational program that promotes an intrinsic interest in learning and encourages cooperation among students. It works by teaching and reinforcing the intuitive philosophy that you feel good about yourself when you do positive actions. The effects of the program range from increased academic achievement to dramatic reductions in problem behaviors. These results have been replicated in diverse settings and feature the most rigorous efficacy study designs available. For more than 30 years, Positive Action has been helping educators around the world create positive learning environments for their students. Imagine what Positive Action could do for people.

                                                     Ten Tips For Being More Truthful

                                       Barbara A. Lewis

The Ten Tips

1. Make a commitment to tell the truth.
2. Tell someone about your commitment.
3. Think before you give a dishonest answer, explanation, sarcasm, or reason.
4. Be careful of when and how you use exaggeration, sarcasm, or irony.
5. Be careful not to twist the truth or leave out part of it.
6. Don't indulge in little white lies.
7. Watch out for silent lies.
8. When you catch yourself lying, throw your mouth into reverse.
9. Talk to yourself.
10. Treat yourself when you tell the truth.

 The ten tips for being more truthful is really helpful and help you become more honest to yourself and others. Truth is the foundation for a fair and just society. For example, in court we require witnesses to swear to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth because only that way can justice be delivered. Truth matters, both to us as individuals and to society as a whole. As individuals, being truthful means that we can grow and mature and learn from our mistakes. For society, truthfulness makes social bonds, lying and dishonesty break them.It is important to live and act in line with your values. Being truthful to yourself matters because you cannot live in line with your values if you are pretending to yourself that you are something else. Truthfulness allows you to be honest about yourself to yourself and to others and to live a life which reflects that.